Hello everyone, I’m Olivia from Olivialucieblake.com! I am a lifestyle blogger who seeks to encourage and uplift my readers with content about mental health, love and relationships and self care – just to name a few. I’m so excited to be here on Niraj’s blog today collaborating with him on lessons we have learnt from difficult situations. Today we will be sharing ten things we have both learnt from difficult situations, I’ll be sharing 5 here on his blog and he will be sharing his five on my blog, so don’t forget to check his post out once you have read this one.
Bad things happen regardless of situations, I think it’s what we learn from those situations that truly changes who we are as people. Some of the hardest things I’ve ever been through have been the making of who I am, and I wouldn’t ever want to change it. As people we are constantly evolving and changing, that’s why when people say to me “You’ve changed” I see it as a compliment. I don’t want to stay the same, I want to keep learning from my mistakes and grow from them.
I of course need to mention here that I don’t know your situations individually, and these are just my thoughts and lessons I have learnt myself from my own situations. If these don’t apply to you then I understand, we are all different and have been through different things.
So let’s get into it!
DIFFICULT SITUATIONS HELP YOU TO GROW
It’s not until I have been through the difficult situation that I really notice how much it helped me to grow. It hurts and is uncomfortable going through it but the joy at the end is worth it all. I wouldn’t change the difficult things that have happened to me in my life because they have helped to shape me into the person I am today. A few years ago I was going through such a bad time with my mental health due to a job I had, and it was the worst year of my life, but now I’m through it I would never go back and change it. It was meant to happen to me, and it has helped me grow such a thick skin and helped me manage my anxiety better.
Sometimes we need the rain and the storm to help us to grow and flourish into the people we are meant to be.
HEALING FROM THEM CAN TAKE TIME
If you break a bone you don’t expect it to heal in a day, do you? The same goes for you and your feelings/mental wellbeing. If a situation breaks you as a person (not physically but mentally) you need time to heal from it. And I am here to remind you there is no time scale on how long this may take. Only you know when you are starting to heal and feel better coming out from a difficult situation. You’re allowed to take as long as you need. Don’t be afraid to prioritise your healing over other things either, you need to feel better and it’s important that you do.
YOU COME BACK BETTER THAN EVER
I have touched on this topic already but I think it’s important to mention in this post that going through hard times can really help you to bounce back and come back better than ever. Sometimes it’s the hardest things we go through that enable us to grow and become who we were meant to be. I’ve had friends and people I know go through some really tough stuff. They always mention how bad it was, but they also talk about the good that came out of it too.
Of course this cant apply to all types of situations, as I mentioned already I don’t know your circumstance but I hope and pray that you find peace through it and you grow from the situation. It’s so easy to let bad things take over us and we don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel, but there is. And this is your reminder to keep going.
This too shall pass.
IT TEACHES YOU TO APPRECIATE THE GOOD
I hate that bad situations remind you to be grateful and appreciative of the good we have in our lives. We should appreciate the good all of the time. But none the less I think it’s important to mention here that going through something bad is like a reminder for us to look around and see the greatness we have too. Whenever I go through something negative or hard I always try to focus my energy and attention on things that are good and positive around me.
It can really help with perspective and might also help you get through the hard time you’re going through.
BAD TIMES DON’T LAST FOREVER
And finally, my favourite reminder of all. Bad times don’t last forever, and believe me they don’t. When going through a difficult time, it can feel like it’s never going to end. It might last days, weeks, months or even years, but you will get through it. You are strong and mighty to get through anything that life throws at you, you’ve got this.
I really hope that this post is helpful if you’re going through something right now. Please never be afraid to reach out to people for support, I would be so happy to speak with you and try to help you in any way that I can. You are not alone.
Please don’t forget to head over to my blog to read Niraj’s 5 tips he has shared too! I’ll see you over there.