Hello everyone! I’m Heidi from Heidi Lane!
I have been blessed that I have been able to find friends that accept me for who I am and who want to hang out with me. However, friendships can still come with some difficulties and challenges.
I am someone who prefers people to reach out to me instead of me reaching out to them. I think this has to do with my introverted self and is just simply part of what makes me, me. This will sometimes present itself as a challenge because if I am somewhere without anyone I know, I have to push myself out of my comfort zone and talk to people I don’t know. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it still challenges me to make friends. Because I am more introverted and prefer not to have to talk to people I don’t know, I tend to only go to events that I know friends will be at.
A challenge that I’m sure a lot of people have with friendships is that we all have our different interests and opinions which may lead to arguments and disagreements. Sometimes those get in the way of our friendship, but we have to learn to drop the argument and just agree to disagree and that is okay to do; you don’t have to be right or win the argument all the time. Arguing isn’t going to solve the problem. You must learn to agree to disagree or talk it out in a friendly manner to solve the problem or misunderstanding. Is it really worth arguing over something you won’t remember in a few minutes, a couple weeks, or months? My best friend and I used to get into arguments all the time, but then we decided to agree to disagree and now we are best friends!
Something I have had to come to terms with recently is that it is okay for you and your friend to have other groups of best friends. It is important to surround yourself with different groups of people. Just because your friend gets other friends in a new environment doesn’t mean you guys can’t still be besties.
One more challenge I’ll share is that sometimes when I hang out with groups of friends, a few of them begin to talk about a memory that I wasn’t a part of. I know I am guilty of doing this as well. I think we should all be conscious of what memories we share when we are around friends who weren’t there; otherwise, the people who weren’t apart of that memory may start to feel left out.
Those are some personal challenges that I sometimes have when making friends and during friendships.
Thank you, Niraj for allowing me to post on your blog!