This blog will be on a topic that will apply to many of us. Due to this difficult pandemic, we have all felt pain of some sort. This could be pain of losing a loved one, or even the pain of missing out on social and other opportunities. We could have also felt pain over something that is completely unrelated to the pandemic. Although you cannot go back in time and change the moments that gave you pain, you have control on how you can respond to the pain. It is important to use pain in a positive way, and in this blog post I will talk about ways you can go about doing this.
I will first talk about why it is easy to use pain in a negative way. The main reason is because you can fall in the trap of feeling sorry for yourself and let that dominate your thoughts. Things that cause you pain can be unfair, and I understand if you sometimes have thoughts that life is not fair in these cases. However, constantly feeling sorry for yourself and not doing anything to try to make the most out of a bad situation achieves nothing, and only makes you worse in the short to medium run. However, I do appreciate that all of this is easier said than done. Things such as a death of a loved one or a traumatic experience can be extremely painful, and it can take a while before you start to look at the pain in a positive way.
In my opinion, the main reason why it is important to use pain in a positive way is because it shows you can take ownership of your own problems. I really do think it is essential to have the mindset that although others can help you deal with your problems, you are the only one with the power to solve them. With dealing with pain in most contexts, it is hard for others to give advice if they cannot relate to your pain, and therefore you have to take ownership in dealing with the pain in the best way. Telling yourself that you will use the pain in the most positive way possible shows a level of proactiveness and taking responsibility, which goes a long way.
One way you can use pain in a positive way is to use it to motivate you even further going forward. Whist pain is obviously bad, it can also be the main source of motivation. A good example for me, and I am sure applies for many others is the pain of missing out due to this pandemic and the missed opportunities from the last 12 months or so is something I won’t get back. However, I am trying to use that pain as extra motivation to create a better future for myself, and a life that is better than before the pandemic. I feel this is where reframing the mind is really important. Reframing the mind to think about pain as an incentive and a motivator rather than something that holds you back can make a key difference in the long run.
Another way you can use pain in a positive way is to us it as a learning opportunity, as the worst moments can provide you with the best learning opportunities. It can include learning from mistakes that you may have made, such as learning from the pain of a breakup, or the pain of a rejection. However, it can also include learning from things that aren’t necessarily mistakes, but on what the pain itself taught you. Learning from things can only help you become the best version of yourself, and like the point I made in the previous paragraph, reframing the mind is so important here to see things in a more positive light.
Is there anything you would add when it comes to using pain in a positive way?